Family Togetherness – Mealtime

[vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]By Anne Peters, LMFT

Life gets so busy. Although the last 14+ months of the pandemic have brought so many difficulties and fears, the one thing I have seen increase is family togetherness. What better way to plan for family togetherness than a family meal? Whether it’s dinner each night or breakfast each morning, a mealtime brings forth a fantastic opportunity for us to simply be with our family. What are the perks to this? Let me share with you! “The Family Dinner Project” shares research that has occurred over the last 30 years.

The following are research-based benefits of enjoying family meals.
– Better academic performance
– Higher self-esteem
– Greater sense of resilience
– Lower risk of substance abuse, depression, and teen pregnancy
– Lower likelihood of developing eating disorders
– Lower rates of obesity
– Better cardiovascular health in teens
– Bigger vocabulary in preschoolers
– Healthier eating patterns in young adults

There are also benefits for adults, including:
– Better nutrition, with more fruits and vegetables and less fast food
– Less dieting
– Increased self-esteem
– Lower risk of depression

The variety of benefits of family mealtime are amazing! From improving our mental health to our physical health, family togetherness at mealtime does it all. What’s your favorite meal to cook together? Here’s a recipe from “Thursday Night Pizza” that’s a family favorite in my house, and the kids can get involved in the cooking!


Personal Pizzas

Equipment
– Cutting board and knife
– Cheese grater
– Prep bowls for toppings
– Rolling pin
– Pizza pans or large rimmed baking sheet(s)
– Pizza cutter
– Serving platter or board

Ingredients
– 1 (14 to 16-ounce) ball pizza dough
– 1½ cups pizza sauce
– 6 ounces mozzarella, Jack, Colby, or cheddar cheese, grated or cut into ½-inch cubes
– Toppings of your choice (sliced bell peppers, onions, mushrooms, olives, roasted red peppers; blanched broccoli or cauliflower florets; chopped artichokes, cooked bacon, cooked chicken; cooked and crumbled sausage; sliced pepperoni or other cured meats; sun-dried tomatoes; etc.)
– Extra-virgin olive oil
– Salt and freshly ground black pepper
– Condiments for serving (ranch dressing, hot sauce, etc.)

Instructions
1. Preheat the oven to 500°F. Line two large rimmed baking sheets with parchment paper or grease them with a little olive oil.

2. Prep your toppings while the oven preheats, and place them all in separate bowls on a counter or table within easy reach of each pizza maker.

3. Cut the ball of dough into four equal-size pieces. Give one piece of dough to each person and let them roll, stretch, or press it out to a 6 to 8-inch circle. Try to avoid overworking the dough; encourage everyone to form their pieces into pizza-size circles and then get right to topping.

4. Place two rounds of dough on each baking sheet and let each person top their pizzas however they like! No combination of ingredients is off limits (as long as there’s enough for everyone). As a general rule, two or three spoonfuls of sauce is plenty for individual pizzas. As far as the other toppings go, however, there are no limits! (Just know that the crust might be flimsy and wet in the middle if you pile on too much. Encourage your fellow pizza makers to grab pinches or spoonfuls rather than handfuls of toppings.) Pro tip: Making pizza faces (see photo above) or other patterns with colorful toppings will prevent pizza makers from overloading their crusts.

5. Transfer the baking sheets to the oven. Bake the pizzas for 10 to 15 minutes, rotating them halfway through, until the crust is golden and the cheese begins to brown in spots.

6. Remove the pizzas from the oven. Drizzle the pizzas with a little olive oil and season with a pinch of salt and a grind or two of black pepper, if desired. Let them cool for a few minutes before slicing.

7. Serve the pizzas on their own or with ranch dressing, hot sauce, or other condiments for dipping/topping.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

Moving Forward Together

[vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]Over the last year, we have learned that we are stronger together. Our communities were resilient in the face of every hardship. And our human services workforce across the state never gave up, continuing to serve Iowans on the frontlines of the pandemic.

The needs of Iowa children, adults, and families are now greater than ever as we begin to navigate life after COVID. And while LSI is here, unflinching, for our neighbors, we need you. Our goal is to raise funds to ensure LSI can continue providing the resources, education, and programming Iowa families count on. You can help us by making a gift to our Moving Forward Together campaign today.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column alignment_setting=”1″ desktop_alignment=”text-center” width=”1/1″][hcode_button button_style=”style4″ button_type=”large” button_text=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fdonatenow.networkforgood.org%2FdonateLSI%3Fcode%3DMainsitetopcorner|title:Make%20a%20Gift%20″ button_settings=”color_bg_hover:#0a7273″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_empty_space][vc_column_text]During the pandemic, you kept Iowa kids safe by supporting LSI. When families were at heightened risk of child abuse or neglect, LSI social workers were able to continue walking alongside them, safely visiting parents in their homes and providing any resources to keep children happy and healthy. But this critical work won’t stop once we move into a “new normal.” Your support will ensure LSI social workers can continue toward our goal of preventing child abuse.

When Iowa children required temporary foster care, you ensured they had a safe home and consistent care. Life was turned upside-down, and foster parents suddenly found themselves working from home, coordinating at-home school for kids, and setting up virtual visits with a child’s birth family. Their LSI team was there, ready to make sure they never felt alone during this difficult time. When more foster parents were required to care for Iowa children, you helped us provide safe virtual classes and trainings as we recruited and licensed more foster and adoptive families. You can help us continue to serve these children and parents. Please consider making a gift today to our Moving Forward Together campaign.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column alignment_setting=”1″ desktop_alignment=”text-center” width=”1/1″][hcode_button button_style=”style4″ button_type=”large” button_text=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fdonatenow.networkforgood.org%2FdonateLSI%3Fcode%3DMainsitetopcorner|title:Donate%20Now%20″ button_settings=”color_bg_hover:#e1ca71″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_empty_space][vc_column_text]The pandemic also put many of our neighbors with disabilities at higher risk. While the individuals we serve used to look forward to participating in community activities, COVID-19 meant they were forced to remain safely in their homes. But we were determined to find new ways they could grow and thrive, despite all obstacles. Our staff was committed to providing care 24-7, often putting their own health at risk in the process. They found new activities and virtual options for individuals to stay connected to their loved ones and community members, and it will be crucial to maintain those connections in the future. Your support will ensure our staff members have the tools they need to continue to support Iowans with disabilities.

When you make a donation to the Moving Forward Together campaign, you are also providing innovative mental and behavioral health care to Iowa children, adults, couples, and families. When LSI’s in-person therapy services were no longer a safe option, we quickly transitioned to providing care virtually over video and phone “telehealth” therapy sessions, thanks to you. This new method of service proved to be beneficial to hundreds of individuals across the state, and LSI will continue to provide accessible care that meets Iowans where they are at on their journey to a brighter future.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]As we look ahead to life after COVID-19, LSI will also be growing and expanding our services to former refugee and immigrant community members. Over the past year, COVID-19 created even more barriers for new Iowans; whether they were facing isolation in their home, trying to build a career while the world shut down, or navigating health and vaccine information in an unfamiliar language. But they rose to the challenge and LSI stood alongside them, providing virtual classes and programming and offering a COVID-19 hotline that provided important information in 15 languages. Thank you for standing with us and empowering our communities across Iowa.

We are still here for Iowans, and we always will be. You wrapped care around us during the difficulties of 2020, and you have stood by us this year, too. We are asking for your continued support as we move forward together into a future full of hope. Please consider making a gift today.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column alignment_setting=”1″ desktop_alignment=”text-center” width=”1/1″][hcode_button button_style=”style4″ button_type=”large” button_text=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fdonatenow.networkforgood.org%2FdonateLSI%3Fcode%3DMainsitetopcorner|title:Donate” button_settings=”color_bg_hover:#b4d5d1″][/vc_column][/vc_row]

Top 3 Ways to Redirect Behaviors and Keep the Peace

[vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]By Anne Peters, LMFT

Let’s face it – staying calm in the midst of negative behaviors from your children is hard. Let’s see if this sounds familiar:

Child A pushes Child B because he was wanting her toy. Child B screams and pushes Child A back. The dog starts barking, children are screaming, objects are breaking, and you feel like you might lose your cool. You then start yelling and punishing, and each member of the family is now escalated.

We’ve all been there, or at least somewhere similar. Is it effective? Does it feel good? Are our children (or ourselves) learning from these experiences? Not usually. So how can we, as the adults, set the scene to redirect the negative behaviors but also keep the peace (and your own sanity)? First, let’s briefly talk about why your interactions as the parent are key.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_single_image image=”26185″ img_size=”large” alignment=”center”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]Here’s a great visual to help us really understand the importance of our role to be calm in moments of chaos. Here’s our happy family, all feeling pretty good. When we think about our scenario described above, what happens when the family members escalate on their own, but also collectively?[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_single_image image=”26186″ img_size=”large” alignment=”center”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]The stress is now spread, and everyone is agitated. Calm interactions are nowhere in sight. This is the point that feels pretty awful for all involved. Here are three tips to redirect those negative behaviors, but also keep the peace.

1. Stay at eye level (or lower) – I have heard several stories from parents who have tried this one simple technique, and have seen meltdowns stop in their tracks. Think about it this way: if you were feeling upset and someone much bigger than you stood over you, would it help you calm down? It’s innately threatening, even if that is not your intention. If the child is standing, sit on the floor, crouch down, or even lay on the floor. It automatically lowers the gate of the child feeling threatened or defensive. You may be surprised how this one simple change can greatly decrease the intensity of the meltdowns.

2. Create a calming space – Have your child work with you like a team to create a calming space in your home. Put a bean bag, a favorite blanket, some squishies or stress balls, books, crayons and coloring books, or a glitter jar (see instructions on how to create this at the end of the blog!) into an identified space. Make sure this place does not feel punitive, but instead, peaceful. Encourage your child to take ownership over this space and praise, praise, praise when they use the space to calm down.

3. Stay calm yourself and take a break when needed – As identified earlier, you as the parent staying calm is absolutely key. If you escalate, they will escalate. It’s really as simple as that. Do your best to stay calm in the moment, and know that it is OK to tell your child “I’m starting to feel frustrated right now, so I know that I need to calm down in my own space.” It teaches your child that everyone has feelings but also that even adults sometimes need a calming break. Do some self-care and return when you feel able.

LSI is always here and ready to help you with managing behaviors! We have therapists and BHIS providers ready to support you and your family.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one-tb”][vc_column alignment_setting=”1″ desktop_alignment=”text-center” width=”1/1″][hcode_button button_style=”style2″ button_type=”large” padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one” button_text=”url:http%3A%2F%2Flsiowa.org%2Fbhis|title:Contact%20Us%20Today!||” button_settings=”color_bg:#6cb33f”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_setting=”1″ desktop_padding=”padding-one”][vc_column width=”1/4″][vc_single_image image=”26187″ img_size=”large”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”3/4″][vc_column_text]Make Your Own Glitter Jar
This set of directions comes from Fireflies and Mud Pies blog.

Materials
Glass or plastic jars with lids, 16-ounce
1/2 cup glitter glue or clear glue
Distilled water
High-temperature hot glue gun, optional
1–2 teaspoons glitter

Instructions
1. Pour 1/2 cup of distilled water into the jar.
2. Pour 1/2 cup of glitter glue or clear glue into the jar.
3. Add 1–2 teaspoons of extra glitter to the jar.
4. Fill up the remainder of the jar with distilled water.
5. If desired, use a hot glue gun to squeeze a ring of glue around the lid of the jar. Press the lid onto the jar and secure with the metal ring.
6. Shake the jar well to distribute the glitter.
Your DIY glitter jar is complete![/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]